OVERVIEW:
Reputation. Whether you’re owning it like Taylor Swift or dodging it like Shawn Mendes, it seems like everyone has something to say about what others say about them. In this episode, I’m joined by the inimitable Rodney McCoy, who has spent decades in the queer scene building a name for himself—one satisfied partner at a time.
Rodney shares how a reputation isn’t just something that happens to you; it’s something you can wield. From leather competitions to unforgettable bukkake tales, he breaks down how the right kind of rep can unlock new connections, while teaching us how to navigate the fine line between being celebrated and misunderstood.
If you’ve ever wondered how to turn your bedroom skills into a legacy—or just want some tips on leaving a lasting impression—this one’s for you.
TRANSCRIPT:
Trevor Hoppe (00:09)
Hey, welcome to the Best Gay Sex Podcast. I’m your host, Dr. Trevor Happy. Today’s episode is about reputation. You know, I think having a reputation has gotten a bad rap, and pop culture might be partly to blame. Riddle me this, what do Joan Jett, Taylor Swift, Kelly Clarkson, and still figuring it out Shawn Mendes all have in common?
they’ve all put out records about having a reputation. A bad reputation. But why is having a reputation always so sus? We talk about houses of ill repute, but what about houses of good repute? I mean, wasn’t it word of her legendary milkshakes that brought all the boys to Khalees’ yard? And like Khalees, today’s guest makes the case that having one satisfied partner
can lead to two more at your doorstep. Rodney McCoy has worked for over four decades to keep HIV prevention sexy. And that is no easy feat. Most of our libido’s shrivel when we hear the term HIV prevention. But through his Listen to Daddy podcast and as a multiple title holding leather man of color, Rodney has earned a reputation for using his kink platform for a good.
Let’s listen in.
Trevor Hoppe (01:35)
Rod McCoy, welcome to the Best Gay Sex podcast.
Rodney McCoy (01:39)
Thank you, thank you. It’s an honor, it’s a privilege. I’m glad to be here and thank you.
Trevor Hoppe (01:44)
I’m so excited to talk to you more, to learn more about what you think the best gay sex looks like. But before we get to all the good stuff, tell listeners a little bit about where you’re from and where you grew
Rodney McCoy (02:01)
Well, first of all, you know the song Native New Yorker by Odyssey? That would be me. I’m a Native New Yorker. am the Brooklyn to be exact. I’ve lived all over the great borough of Brooklyn. And I am also the oldest of five kids to, of course, the same parents.
Trevor Hoppe (02:05)
Of course.
Rodney McCoy (02:23)
I do have to say, and I have an ex who teases me about being from New York, because I’ve been living in the DC area now for 20 years, well, over 20 years. And he says, why do people from New York leave to New York to talk about how great it is?
It is it is and I just love going back there. Of course. I have another reason to be there being that my partner is there So that’s even more reason to go back and but no that’s where I’m from I think as people get to know me they’ll be like, yep He’s a New Yorker. So Yes, so native New Yorker here exactly
Trevor Hoppe (02:47)
Mm -hmm.
New Yorker born and bred. I love it. And what was it like growing up there as a young queer person? that was that, what part of your life journey did you start to think, I might be different from the other boys?
Rodney McCoy (03:12)
As a teenager, just starting to explore it, I don’t even say explore it, but just recognizing it, especially in a conservative Christian family, it was not easy. People would think, you’re in one of the gay meccas. Wow, you would think that, know, like sky’s the limit.
Trevor Hoppe (03:25)
Mm -hmm.
Rodney McCoy (03:35)
Not necessarily, not when you’re a teenager and not when you don’t know what’s out there. It actually took me leaving New York to go to school for those of you who know Oberlin College, that’s where I went. I call it, right, it’s in Ohio, a fairly prestigious liberal arts college. Also very progressive in terms of its politics, in terms of its environment, and that allowed me to come out. So when I came back,
Trevor Hoppe (03:46)
Nice.
Rodney McCoy (04:03)
about five years later back to New York. That’s when I started to discover, wow, all of this was here and I didn’t even know it. So I would say as a young adult, particularly in the 90s in Brooklyn, man, especially in downtown Brooklyn, Fort Greene, Clinton Hill, that was the place to be. for those who may be listening, who grew up or lived in Brooklyn in New York City around the 90s, y ‘all know what I’m talking about. I mean.
Trevor Hoppe (04:31)
Ha ha.
Rodney McCoy (04:32)
I mean, the nightlife, the people, it was just amazing. It was just exactly what I needed to really come into my
Trevor Hoppe (04:39)
I love that. And so did you start having sexual experiences while you read Oberlin or did that take coming back to New
Rodney McCoy (04:47)
I had a few in my freshman year and for some reason and looking back, I think I was just so intense as a person, intense in my studies, intense in mingling with folks, intense in the political arena in terms of the campus. I think I’m looking back, I may have turned some people off.
So it wasn’t until I got back to New York, you know, where people were like, here’s this, but you know, I’m, I’m in my twenties, early twenties, back in New York, fresh off the farm, as I called it, coming back from Ohio to New York and, know, and, you know, being slender, you know, much more skinnier than I am now. it’s getting, you know, small, skinny, you know, outgoing, like, hi, how, who are you? And, you know, I got a lot of notice.
Trevor Hoppe (05:23)
Ahaha
Ha ha ha, weren’t we all?
Rodney McCoy (05:40)
a lot of attention. So I really started exploring sex and having sex when I came back to New York in the 90s. And I was about to say, you know, like coming back to New York that I thought I was on, what you would call it, that I had come into my own. That actually came later.
I think in my 40s and 50s. That’s when I would say now is when I’ve really come into my own sexual. But I think I had a very good start, a very good foundation coming back to New York, coming back home.
Trevor Hoppe (06:14)
Were there any particular experiences that stick out to you at that time that you’re like, this is the thing that was like, wow, this is what sex can be
Rodney McCoy (06:23)
Jesus.
Trevor Hoppe (06:24)
Roll the tape.
Rodney McCoy (06:25)
There is, roll tape. I’ll never forget and I, okay, I’m gonna tell on myself. So I’ve always been, as an adult, I’ve always worked in HIV prevention. And there was one organization that I worked for where some of the things we had to do was go do outreach in some of the areas where we congregated, socially, sexually, all that good stuff.
And there was one particular encounter with a handsome young man, we were about the same age. And, you know, so I was doing my spiel about condoms. This was pre -prep. So talking about condoms, talking about getting tested, blah, blah, blah. And I could tell he was looking at me and that was not what he really wanted to hear. So I broke my, and he was gorgeous. He was so sexy. And I was, and so he let it be known.
When I was off the clock, he was like, I really appreciate you talking to me, but that’s not what I wanted to talk to you for. And so I was like, okay, how about this? Wait till I’m off the clock. And I don’t know what it was. I think it was his face. I think it was his body, even the way he smelled. But that was some good ass sex. That was some good, good, that was some good f***ing And most of the time I topped
Mount Morris Baths, and it’s so funny because this young man, I met him in Prospect Park in Brooklyn. I remember quite a few occasions in Mount Morris Baths in New York City in Harlem, which is no longer there, unfortunately, where there was an older gentleman, a professor at one of the local universities. my God, he was, oof. It was
I didn’t realize I had a daddy thing until I met him. And first of all, he was so handsome and in a very professorial kind of way that you would look at him and go daddy. And just his sexual energy was just very nurturing, very easy going. But when we would get horny, just everything would ramp up and would just and I also remember because and
Trevor Hoppe (08:30)
Mm -hmm.
Rodney McCoy (08:44)
Hopefully the FCC doesn’t mind me saying this, but I would f*** him. And I wasn’t too much into bottoming then, but I really just liked his energy so much that when he did me, it just felt amazing. I was like, whoa. And that’s, think, was the start to me being versatile. And most times I was topping. I didn’t really enjoy bottoming or flipping.
Trevor Hoppe (09:00)
Mm -hmm.
Mmm.
Rodney McCoy (09:13)
until my 40s. But there was one, you look at what you done did. Look at what you done started, because actually, and I’m going to New Orleans for a conference that’s going to happen. New Orleans was also a place where I had a wonderful sexual experience with a local down at and I don’t know what it is about me in bathhouses. I don’t know what it is. But he was tall, you know, like that tall
Trevor Hoppe (09:21)
Ha ha ha ha!
Rodney McCoy (09:43)
dark, handsome, muscular. Maybe a few years younger than me, was in my late, mid to late 30s. He was just a little bit younger. He tasted so good and I sucked him off. And it was just delicious, know, tasting it, feeling a splash on me. I was on my knees sucking him, you know, like right there. And so I thought that was
And so, you know, after we wiped up and we were talking and we were vibing, and so I was just, okay, and he’s cool. So I was fine with talking and he got this look on his face. And I was like, what? And he said, and I’ll never forget, he said, I want to know how it feels to be inside you. And I said, ooh. And at the time I was kind of like, and here’s the other thing, dude was huge. And I’m already.
Trevor Hoppe (10:32)
-huh.
Rodney McCoy (10:34)
not that experienced in bottoming, but I was like, well, God damn it, I’m gonna give this the old college try. And I have to tell you, that was one of the first times, and I remember being on my hands and knees, doggie, and he didn’t have his own room, but there was a space, there was one open space between the cubicles at Flex, Flex New Orleans, which is unfortunately no longer there.
But so we went into that space and he just slid in slowly. And I think because I was so turned on and I was comfortable with him, I just breathed, took a breath and just let him slide in slowly. And he just slowly stroked me, slowly stroked me. And I was just, and I just remember feeling so good. It was also the first time that came while getting
And that was memorable for me because that rare, even now that rarely happens.
Or let me put it this way. That was the first time I actually ejaculated. Now, I also discovered anal orgasms. That’s a whole nother story. But yeah. Okay, you’re like, we got time today. But yeah, those are some of my more memorable times from when I was living in New York. What happened in New York, what happened when I traveled outside of New York. But yeah, I would say the 90s.
Trevor Hoppe (11:46)
we’ll get there, don’t you worry.
We got time.
Rodney McCoy (12:05)
That was sexually, that, you know, now that I look back, it’s like, you did quite a bit, quite a bit. I also realized I had developed a bit of a reputation because I was out there, I was doing whatever I wanted to do, whoever I wanted to do for better and for worse. And I had the reputation, I learned decades later that I was a slut, Rod was just after that, which there was some truth to that, but no more than everyone else.
But everyone was like, he’s just all about the sex. He’s all about the nut. You can’t really get with Rod. And I learned that from an ex who was still a good friend of mine. People were actually saying to him, don’t date him. Don’t date Rod, because he’s just about the sex. And it’s just amazing to me how I was doing the same things everyone else was doing. And I should know because A, I was having sex with some of them, or B, I was having sex with guys they had sex with. So that’s how I knew.
Trevor Hoppe (12:35)
Mm -hmm.
Exactly.
Rodney McCoy (13:04)
So that’s how I knew, it’s like we’re all doing the same thing while y ‘all hating on me. Cause I was very open and vocal and like, what? I’m a grown man and so were you, what’s the problem? What is the problem?
Trevor Hoppe (13:15)
When you live out loud, know, people always have things to say, but the truth is that everybody else is on, well, now Grindr back then, obviously differently, but everyone indeed. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
Rodney McCoy (13:25)
Scruff here, scruff, because I, I hate Grindr. I do not like Grindr. So, but that’s me personally.
Trevor Hoppe (13:34)
Definitely. Well, it sounds like you’ve had some pretty amazing early experiences. I wonder if there were some bad experiences along the way that might’ve taught you some lessons about what you’re into or not into or boundaries or lessons that you took away.
Rodney McCoy (13:52)
The answer is yes.
It’s funny because I talked about learning how to bottom and I do remember there was one and this happened I think for a lot of us. There was this because I mostly talked but there were guys who wanted to f*** me. guess they I guess I whatever I look like back there they were liking it. So I remember this this one guy in particular I mean very handsome very very masculine very muscular.
who really wanted to f* me and I was like at the time because I was more comfortable topping rather than bottoming it was like, okay, we can give it a try But I want to flip and he said, okay. Yeah, sure. You can do that. You know, we can you know, let me let me f* you first and then you can do me and He did me And it was it was okay But what what really got me was when and he came
And so was like, okay, it’s my turn. He’s like, no, no, no, no, no, no. Right. And that was very common. Games like that, well, at least among the circles that I ran in, that was very common. know, guys who said that, you’re like, who would say anything just to get the ass? So I heard of such tales until it happened to me. You know, guys who said they were top. And then when you got them, you like to wherever y ‘all were going.
Trevor Hoppe (15:01)
Really?
Rodney McCoy (15:22)
You know, you’re wondering why both your legs are
So I had heard that from too many of my friends. I was like, well, if that’s a problem, send them my way. Right. And I think, you know, like looking back, I wish he had just been honest. Cause that kind of messed with me a little bit. It’s like, you didn’t have to lie. You know, I could have either said, yeah, or I would have just said, no thanks. And you know, let’s just keep it pushing. The idea that someone would had to, you know, to lie just to get what you would want. That’s like not.
Trevor Hoppe (15:30)
Right?
Rodney McCoy (15:51)
I thought we were grown, we don’t have to do that. Another time that I also do remember was a buddy of mine had an ex that I wound up having sex with. And that was cold, and not cold, but that was bad for me for two reasons. When I had sex with my buddy’s ex, he said,
He got very cold. He was like, okay, we’re good. I’m good. You can see yourself to the door And I was like, I did and this was someone who I had known socially before we messed around and so I was like I never knew that side of you. Okay Okay And out of guilt I told my buddy what had happened. I didn’t I left out the cold part, but I said look I gotta tell you this is
he lit into my ass and not in a good way. And it’s so funny because then his ex, when he learned about it, he said, I wish I had told him not to tell him. Because apparently he heard about it too. And that’s when I, I’m not going to say I totally learned that lesson. That didn’t stick firmly into him much later in life. But it was my first glimpse
Just because you can doesn’t mean you should or be to. know, some men just need, there are so many of us out there, some of us just really need to be off limits. Especially if they’re connected to someone you know.
Trevor Hoppe (17:11)
yeah.
Yeah. And is that a rule for you now? Do you try to avoid people in your networks?
Rodney McCoy (17:25)
something.
I’m on.
Depends on who it is. Now in terms of work networks, do sometimes, depending on the person and depending on how we interact, for the most part, if we are working as colleagues, as a matter of fact, yes, work colleagues, even if they get me hot and I’m just like, yeah, I’m just like, no, I don’t sht where I eat. Not that sex is shtty unless you don’t clean out right. But.
But I’ve learned, you know, it’s just better to not mix work with that kind, with sexual pleasure. So that’s a hard, fast rule for me. If you are the ex of someone who I am close to, even if you’re the current of someone that I’m close to, either I’m just not gonna do it or there’s gonna be some conversation first. Because some people don’t mind, some people don’t care.
But that experience I told you about taught me some people do care. So at the very least have the conversation. That’s very important. And that’s what I would tell anyone. And if you’re afraid to have the conversation, then
Trevor Hoppe (18:39)
Yeah, exactly. And I think some people think it’s hard to even know what those emotions will be until you’re in the moment. And it can surprise you sometimes where you’re like, I thought that this would be cool. And now that I’m at it, I’m like, this is not cool. I totally, it’s a potentially volatile mix of emotions there. So I totally get that. What other kinds of, you know, rules or
Rodney McCoy (18:48)
Yes.
Trevor Hoppe (19:08)
or ways that you filter things that you’ve learned from having bad experiences that have helped you create some tactics for finding the good stuff and avoiding the bad stuff.
Rodney McCoy (19:22)
There are so many of us, seriously, in terms of guys, there are so many of us that if there is someone who’s not interested in me or someone who otherwise might be off limits to me, the first thing I had to learn was don’t stress it. Let it be and be okay with it. Be quite all right with it. There are so many more men.
Trevor Hoppe (19:42)
Amen.
Rodney McCoy (19:46)
that we can have fun with. The other thing is being okay with saying no and being told no.
Trevor Hoppe (19:55)
Yeah, it’s two -sided coin.
Rodney McCoy (19:57)
Exactly. And I’ve had to really, really embrace that because I’ve had to learn, you know what, I’m not everybody’s cup of tea. Not everybody is my cup of tea and I have a pretty big cup. You know, I have a very broad, you know, what I like and what I, as opposed to what I don’t like. Exactly. I have a Stanley Tumbler. Right. Sometimes it’s a Stanley cup.
Trevor Hoppe (20:14)
It’s one of those Stanley Tumblers, you know, just like this.
Mm -hmm
Rodney McCoy (20:24)
But the and the other side to that is even with that, there are still some, I’m just not feeling it. Or, and just like I can say no, I’ve had to look, the guys can tell me no too. Even if they don’t tell me no, but I just kind of get ghosted. Yes, that still happens in 2024. It’s like, okay, you gave me the message. I can take a hint. And even though would prefer people being honest, also, you know what, it’s okay. It’s okay, because.
I’ve had to learn while I’m busy stressing you or bumping my head over here, there’s someone over here. There may be more people over here who like, know, hello, what’s up? So that has really helped me in terms of really being more chill when it comes to just navigating this thing. Just navigating. Yeah, go ahead.
Trevor Hoppe (21:15)
And you mentioned the saying no thing and I’m just curious because this is a debate I have with myself basically all the time is do you actively say no or do you just not respond? Because I feel like those are both the same thing but people feel strongly. I feel about one direction or the other and I don’t know. What’s your feelings on the
Rodney McCoy (21:39)
I really do think if it’s an in -person interaction, I would definitely say, just saying, just saying. If you’re ambivalent, because sometimes there’s ambivalence.
If you’re a bifid, if you’re not sure, say so. If you’re just not feeling it, say so. I think the one area, and I struggle with this too, is we talked about the apps. I find that the apps are a space where that’s probably more acceptable if you reach out to someone and you don’t hear back, okay, they’re not interested, until they say otherwise.
that seems to be acceptable. So sometimes I’ve done that myself. I’ve been on not only doing it, being on the receiving end. I would say the apps probably are the only place where that’s somewhat acceptable. But in person, not just saying it, just just saying it. And that’s how I feel.
Trevor Hoppe (22:30)
Yeah, totally. Of course, I think the in -person thing makes sense. I’m such an internet baby that like, you know, the internet is such a locus of how I like think about having and finding sex. But yes, of course you can find it in person too.
Rodney McCoy (22:45)
And people forget that. As a matter of fact, I tend to do better when I meet people in person.
Trevor Hoppe (22:52)
Yeah. And why do you think that is? Because I think that’s true for myself as well and a lot of people. What do you think’s diff… You know, what works for you in person?
Rodney McCoy (23:03)
And let me say this, when I say in person, even this kind of face -to -face interaction to me is better because you get to vibe a person. You get to really get a sense of what their energy is. that looks are fine, but energy, if I look at a guy and I say, they look like they’d be a really good time.
That’s gonna get my attention, excuse me, much more than, or in addition to how they look. You know, because if you kind of look like you’re just gonna lay there regardless of your position or just kind of, or make it all about yourself, then it’s kind of like, or if there’s, just am not feeling this energy. No, no, no, you’re touching me. It’s like, as opposed to if you’re just being your natural charm itself and I’m just like, tell me more. Give me more.
Give me more. Yeah. And I think that’s it. You really can vibe off a person. And that says more than what any profile can say.
Trevor Hoppe (24:05)
Yeah, definitely. I have had many experiences where you think it’s gonna vibe based on online conversations, and then you get there you’re like, wow, your energy is just not a match for me. And I’m sure the opposite is true too, right guys? You’re not sure about, and then it just like clicks and they’re so charismatic.
Rodney McCoy (24:26)
Or they know what they’re doing and I and I have to say this so there’s a hot guy and that when I was in Fort Lauderdale and You know, we vibe we vibe it was just like off the chain and I’m that is that his husband excuse me, which at first I was kind of like physically I don’t But because they wanted to treat something they were married I was like why not?
but he knew how to use that dictum. I was like, whoa, okay. I might need to recalibrate some things here, because the math ain’t math -ing. I mean, in a way, I was glad the math didn’t math, because, I was fing the hubby. I was fing my friend, and then his friend was f***ing me. I was just kind
Trevor Hoppe (24:54)
Ha!
Dang.
Rodney McCoy (25:17)
This was me before I went. And I was, so sometimes you’re right. Sometimes you just don’t know. And, and again, talk about Fort Lauderdale, the same, the same event where I met this guy, there was another guy who I had met online and looks wise, I was kind of like, I’m not really feeling it. And I didn’t really give him that energy.
when I happened to be at this event where there was a f*** party. And there was this older gentleman who I kind of like, you know what, I’m liking his energy and we had so much fun. And then we looked at each other, was like, I know you, yeah, we were talking. And so at the time we were like, we need to do this again. And I was really into it. We did not hook up again, unfortunately, because that happens sometimes at events like
But that was a lesson for me. It’s like, you know, sometimes, yeah, there is a difference between what is online versus what’s in person.
Trevor Hoppe (26:25)
Amen. And do you have any tips for people to like, suss out the vibe online? Because I feel like that’s the biggest challenge.
Rodney McCoy (26:33)
I would say if a person is willing to talk, if they’re willing to chat, that is the first main thing for me because I’ve seen some guys put in their profile, I’m not here for the back and forth, I’m not here to make small talk and on the one hand, I get it, we know what we’re all here for, thank you for being very clear. But that also said to
you’re probably a pus bag. so, and yes, pus bag, exactly. So a little bit about that. So as a top, I love fing. I love aholes literally. So my current partner was like, well, I hate saying current partner, like they’ll be the next one. So my baby, my baby was like, but you like a*holes. And he had firsthand experience of my love for
So we were like, doesn’t make sense to say, to call someone an a**hole when it’s clear you like them. So that’s how we were like, well, so what would be a body part, something with a body that would just be like so disgusting. And that’s where we came up with the pus bag. So, right. So, and so even though I get it, you’re on here, you’re not about to chit chat, you’re like, let’s just get it done, but it still has a whiff of the pus bag about it. So if someone is willing to talk.
Trevor Hoppe (27:41)
repulsive.
I like that.
Rodney McCoy (28:00)
by, you know, answer questions and also talk, you know, like find out about what they like and what you like. I think that’s a good start. You know, it’s like, yeah, that might be. And if there’s consistency, you know, I think those, that’s a good way to start.
Trevor Hoppe (28:17)
Definitely a good way to start and it’s hard to get a handle on some time and I struggle with it as well because sometimes you’re just, you’re looking and someone’s interested but they’re just not giving you what you need to get there and it can be sometimes hard to sort of set that boundary for yourself. like, whatever’s on the other side of this door, you know, just not willing to kind of risk it given their inability to communicate. So I feel that. Communication, I guess.
Rodney McCoy (28:42)
right and and and just like guys who say i don’t want to communicate they’ll put that in their profile those of us might be like let’s communicate let’s buy we can put that in our
Trevor Hoppe (28:57)
I like that. So not just being negative about it, being positive, being like, this is what I want. I, you know what? I’m going to put that in my profile like now, because I think you sometimes have to put out what you want to receive in the world. And that is one good. So that is a tip I really appreciate to put it out there. So thank you for that. Before we segue to the good stuff, I just want to stop one more little train station. I’m curious.
Rodney McCoy (29:13)
you’re welcome.
sure.
Trevor Hoppe (29:27)
After you’ve had a bad encounter with someone, are you ever willing to go back for seconds?
Rodney McCoy (29:34)
It depends. And I’m going to say it depends what the bad experience is. If the bad experience is a person didn’t maybe wasn’t as fresh, wasn’t as clean, didn’t clean as well as they thought. Yes. If everything else was otherwise good.
I would go back and be like, hey, you weren’t as fresh doing me. And I’ve also had to learn, and this is where bottoming for me helped too, because I was one of those plus bag tops. Ooh, you painted on me. Ooh, you weren’t quite as fresh. Ooh, I’m never going to have sex with you again. ooh, girl, let me tell you what happened with so and so and so and so. I was that top. I was
It was only when I started bottoming that I realized, you know what Rod, you’re a pus back against the top. You need to chill. So, right, exactly. And I don’t mind telling all myself even. So, know, so things like that, I’ve learned showing some grace around, you know, if a guy’s not too clean, you know, either give him a chance to clean up or maybe not today.
But let’s try again another time, especially if everything else is going well. There have been some situations either because we’re just not compatible, the energy is not there, it feels like I’m doing all this work or I’m not getting, like for example, guys who, for me, I like noise. If a guy is just so quiet or there’s no gesture, just kind of like,
And I believe when they say I’m enjoying myself and I’m just like, but I’m not
a guy who doesn’t know how to listen to me. In fact, I did have to tell this guy. No, because bottoming especially, it’s like I’m trusting you. So if I say slow down and you don’t slow down, you know, and right now I’m not even talking about consent violation, borderline sexual assault. I’m talking about you don’t know how to listen to me and I’m trusting you with my body. So apparently no.
And I had to tell someone because he enjoyed it. I said, no, you know, you’re about you. You don’t know how to listen to me. So, no, it wasn’t fun for me. So, yes, to answer your question, I’ve had some experiences where I did not and would not after if it was like that, if it was just incompatibility or you’re not listening to me or care about me.
Trevor Hoppe (32:01)
Yeah, I think those are the moments where, you know, we learn a little bit of humanity sometimes in the way we treat people and also just learn a little bit about what we need and deserve.
Rodney McCoy (32:14)
How about that? And I think a lot of us, and particularly as gay and bisexual men, how we come into our own is so much shrouded in shame and punishment and belittling. So we almost feel like we have to be secretive. And yet the thing about sex that makes it work is when you can talk about what your desires are. But at the same time,
Trevor Hoppe (32:15)
Yeah, deserve. We deserve things.
Rodney McCoy (32:40)
We’re taught to hide our desires and just our desires to get sexual with other men. And that’s not even talking about cake. That’s not even talking about different forms of relationships. You know, just the idea of me desiring someone of the same sex or both sexes or all sexes, you know, that I’m not hetero, you know, that. And I think that sometimes feeds into that sense of shame, that sense of I can’t really let anyone know what I’m about.
can probably lend itself to some of the bad experience.
Trevor Hoppe (33:13)
Thinking back on all the sex you’ve had in your life, you don’t have to think about a specific experience maybe, but if one comes to mind, but like what do you think looking back counts as like best sex, either a specific experience or context or like what gets you there?
Rodney McCoy (33:31)
Hmm, that’s sense. Well off the top of my head noise. Noice. Topping or bottoming or flipping or borrow or whatever. I need noise. Because noise says to me, A, whatever I’m doing you’re enjoying it and I love that.
Trevor Hoppe (33:49)
Mm -hmm.
Rodney McCoy (33:50)
It also shows yeah, I love that it also shows that you know, you’re uninhibited You’re really in the moment that encourages me to be in the moment with you. I love noise I love those sex noises definitely That to me is best sex best sex is When I can say what I want you to do and you can tell me what you like me to do for example
If I can say, watch the teeth, careful of the teeth, and you’re like, ooh, sorry, and then you just adjust accordingly, that is good sense. Not getting offended or embarrassed. No, it’s just like, the thing is is that I’m learning you, you’re learning me. We have to communicate what we like. If I can communicate what I like, if you feel comfortable communicating to me what you want.
Trevor Hoppe (34:28)
Mm -hmm.
Rodney McCoy (34:42)
In fact, I do kind of like it. was talking with a friend of mine who’s straight, who’s hetero, and we were listening to some songs where these women who are rappers or singers are really assertive in terms of what they want their partner to do. And he’s getting into it. And I was just like, do you like it when a woman tells you what she wants? And he just looked back and said, yeah.
And I realize I’m the same way when it comes to, and I’ve had my own experiences with women and I like an assertive woman too, but it’s really guys and guys who own what they like, whether it’s being dicked down, whether it’s, you know, me coming on their face, you know, whether, and if you love me eating ass, we are golden. That’s one of the things that definitely I
eating ass as the act in and of itself as the prelude to what’s next and a guy who loves me eating his ass. mmm. And God help me if you like eating ass too, because I don’t get enough of that. I live in DC. It truly is bottom city. And so, you know, so on the one hand, it’s great because I get to eat ass, but then it’s like, but this verse top loves his ass eating too. So someone who loves doing that, I’m just like, aw, come on.
Trevor Hoppe (35:39)
That does
Rodney McCoy (35:58)
So I mean, I hope this kind of answers your question in terms of what to me is good sex.
Trevor Hoppe (36:03)
Yeah, the noise is key. And like when you say noise, I’m assuming we’re talking about a broad spectrum of things. Is there a thing that like, I don’t know, what do you feel like it does for you, the noise?
Rodney McCoy (36:17)
The noise lets me know you’re enjoying yourself. It lets me know that you’re present. It lets me know, particularly if I’m topping, that what I’m doing to you is really turning you on. And that strokes my ego. I think tops miss the point when they make it all about their nut. It’s like, no, dude, you need to make sure your partners are satisfied for two reasons. One, they’ll come back.
Trevor Hoppe (36:30)
Mmm.
Rodney McCoy (36:46)
they’ll come back. Number two, they’ll tell their friends.
Trevor Hoppe (36:50)
I love
Rodney McCoy (36:52)
And they’ll tell their friends. what that means is it does that sometimes it does mean that you’ll get some friends who will want to get with you too. And that’s an ego stroke. or sexual experience in the making. But it’s also a way and I’ll admit to build a reputation. You know, if we let’s be honest, you know, I think as men in particular. We like having a good reputation on anything we do.
He’s great to hang out with, he’s great to talk to, he’s a really good listener. he’s a great worker. He’s a great f**k.
So my whole thing is, whether I get with your friends who are not with your, you know, with your permission, going back to what we talked about earlier, the fact that guys have something good to say. In fact, there’s this dude I wanted to get with for years, who at one time looked at me and said, I’ve heard about you. And what did you hear? And he just smiled and walked away. I was like, okay. All right. Yeah.
So it’s a win -win for tops to focus on their bottom partners. It really is. It’s not about what they do for us. It’s what we do for them. And so noise is like, it says to me, noise is like, you’re a grown ass man. You’re a grown ass man. You’re comfortable in your sexuality, which is a turn off for me.
And it’s like, you’re not afraid to express when something feels good. And especially if something I’m doing to for or with you makes you feel that good. God, it’s such the huge turn on. Yeah. Noise. Noise and kissing. Yeah.
Trevor Hoppe (38:28)
I love that. Do you find, this isn’t a side, but in my experience, Americans are very noisy and then when I go abroad, people are less so if you had that experience at
Rodney McCoy (38:42)
I have not had as much experience as abroad when it comes to sex. And the guys who are foreign born who come here almost feel like they’ve got the space now to make boys. yeah, so I really can’t comment again because of my relative lack of experience with sex abroad.
Trevor Hoppe (39:05)
No, that’s, totally get it. just one of those things that I hear from like my French, one of my friends is French is like, gosh, you Americans are so loud in bed. And, and he was like, French people are not loud at all. And, it fascinates me because I like the noise too. So I think of it as a good thing and a form of communication. But my, French friend was like very put off by it. It was like, you’re too noisy, but I love the noise. So I’m here for it. So.
Is it important for you whether you’re partner orgasms? Thinking of like best sex, like how does orgasm factor
Rodney McCoy (39:40)
The truth is yes, it is important to me. Whether it’s ejaculation or an assgasm or both. I like and I’ve always been the top who really gets off on pleasing his partner. That does more for me than getting my own nut. So when you’re coming, when you’re orgasming, when you’re assgasming, when you’re shooting, that makes my dick harder.
Trevor Hoppe (39:48)
Mm -hmm.
Rodney McCoy (40:08)
that gets me physically hotter. That just puts a smile to my face. That’s just like, yeah. You know, even to the point where if I’m having sex and I’m kind of ambivalent about coming, I’ll be like, no, I’m good. I’m good. trust. I’m good.
Trevor Hoppe (40:23)
Yeah, so for you, actually, it’s more important that they come than you yourself.
Rodney McCoy (40:30)
Because I can always take care of myself. For better and for worse I can. No, I’m gonna put a better on that I can always take care of myself if I have to You know if he wants to see me come, know, and I’m feeling if I’m not feeling it I’ll be like I’m not feeling but if I’m feeling it I’ll be like, okay Give me a few minutes if he comes first. So it’s like I can always take care of myself, but I love the idea of
Trevor Hoppe (40:30)
Interesting.
Rodney McCoy (40:53)
him really enjoying himself because again I like pleasing my partners and honestly it does kind of build a good reputation, “Oh, he’s a good top!”
Trevor Hoppe (41:02)
I love the reputation idea. I had not considered that, but of course it makes sense when you think about it that word travels.
Rodney McCoy (41:04)
Yeah!
Yeah, I mean, we’re sitting here talking about sex publicly. You know, imagine if you and I, if it wasn’t an interview, but it was just Trevor and Rod talking, you know, and there might be some names that we might privately even say some names. let me tell you about this dude. Because, oof, you know, and that’s just how and that’s just how we do. So for those of us who think I can treat my partners topping or bottoming any old kind of way.
And that’s why when people will be like, well, I understand why I can’t get with such and such and such and such or or people don’t seem to gravitate toward me. I don’t understand why. You know, where’s my imaginary cup of tea like?
I’ve heard about you.
You might want to rethink that, that thing that you do and that thing you don’t do. Yeah.
Trevor Hoppe (42:00)
My mouth, my lips are sealed. sure I don’t know anyone like that.
Rodney McCoy (42:05)
You know and and and if it’s just me I will own that my experience has been and I’ve been on both sides of that so
Trevor Hoppe (42:15)
I’m sure we all, I think I say this to my friends all the time as I’m showing my friend a Grindr profile, I’m like, my God, how many people have shown other people my Grindr profile and said X, and Z about, right? Like, of course they have.
Rodney McCoy (42:27)
And I never even thought about that, because I was just thinking in terms of live conversation with your boy or with your best girl or with your good Judy. But I didn’t even think about the profile. It’s like, my partner and I did something like that similar just recently. And it was so funny, because I was just on, like, we’re grins and giggles, because I do that sometimes when I travel. It’s like, who’s going to pop up? Who’s around?
Trevor Hoppe (42:41)
Yeah.
Exactly!
Rodney McCoy (42:54)
And he happened to be with me. I was like, look, baby, look. Look who all is here. And he recognized one or two people. So I was like, yes, it truly is. Truly is.
Trevor Hoppe (43:02)
It’s a small gay world sometimes.
Thinking about that best sex, if you had the power, if you had that like Thanos glove and could snap and just turn fantasy into reality and make like that fantasy come to life, like what would that best sex fantasy look like to you?
Rodney McCoy (43:22)
I’m trying to think well first of all I have I have fantasy of and I might as well put it up put it out there here I have a fantasy of having sex with identical twins that has always been a fantasy of mine that I have always wanted to have so definitely a hot pair of and we’re men of a certain age so if I say a hot pair of double mint twins
Trevor Hoppe (43:47)
-huh.
Rodney McCoy (43:48)
so yeah, something like that. ooh, what else? What else?
Alright, so I have a birthday coming
I have always wanted to have a birthday orgy where, yeah, where I f* all the bottoms, all the tops of the verse, f* me, then it’s a free for all, and then when everyone decides they wanna come, it’s one big bukkake scene on yours truly.
Trevor Hoppe (44:18)
Fabulous, that sounds attainable.
Rodney McCoy (44:21)
I’ll probably wait a year or two because I was with someone last year Where I was like help me put this together. I was dating someone so I was like, you know, you’re a freak I’m a freak help me put this together. It never happened It never happened. So it did not happen. So But yeah, I I do want a birthday orgy at some point I really do
Trevor Hoppe (44:36)
Yeah? Aww.
Rodney McCoy (44:47)
I probably, if I think of something else, and of course different celebrities and things like that, I’m just like, God, there are too many to name. There really are. Idris Elba is at the top of the list.
Trevor Hoppe (44:55)
Who does it for you?
my gosh, yeah, he could.
Rodney McCoy (45:07)
So could Henry Cavill.
Trevor Hoppe (45:10)
that’s a big man.
Rodney McCoy (45:12)
I like to climb trees. yes. Let me see. Who else? else? You know what? For some reason, you know what? It’s the, I think it’s the Deadpool thing, but Ryan Reynolds has a body on him and he’s so snarky. It’s like you’re so snarky with that mouth. What else do that mouth do?
Trevor Hoppe (45:13)
Ha ha ha ha!
Rodney McCoy (45:33)
So Ryan Reynolds, God, who else? I just took one of these like online Facebook quizzes where, so I’m gonna have to think about that. Certain celebrities, know, sports figures, like pretty much damn near a lot of the guys at the Olympics this year. my God, my God. The pole vaulter. the,
Trevor Hoppe (45:52)
yeah. The pole vaulter.
Rodney McCoy (46:00)
The Turkish guy with the gun who just looked like he just walked off off the street. Just decided to shoot a few things and got a silver medal, but he’s hot though. Noah Lyles, Noah Lyles kind of like, okay, I see you. I know what we can do with some of those medals. Who all else? Marcell Jacobs from Italy. You have Marcel, one L, Jacob. yes.
Trevor Hoppe (46:06)
The shooter.
Ugh. Mm -hmm.
I’ll have to check them out. Yeah, they are pretty at the Olympics for sure. you’re pretty.
Rodney McCoy (46:31)
my God, my God. I would be like Janet Jackson, one of her earlier hits, No Sleep. No Sleep. wait a minute, and Frederick Richard and Stephen the pommel horse guy. Those two, those two. Woof, woof. mm -hmm, yeah. I’m a bit of a freak, so.
Trevor Hoppe (46:46)
so cute. So
I love that you focus, you have very like focused ideas of like hot, it’s like attached to bodies in a particular, sometimes I ask this question and it’s so abstract, but you’re like, you know, you know what you want. And I love that. That’s very.
Rodney McCoy (47:12)
I like what I like and there’s a and for me what I also appreciate is that for me there’s this wide range of what I like, of what turns me on. It’s a combination of yeah, the Stanley Cup, you know. So it’s like you have a pretty good chance with me. Pretty good chance if you’ve got a handsome face and a decent, nice or tight, hot, whatever tight and hot is, yeah. And you’ve got a personality to match.
Trevor Hoppe (47:21)
the Stanley Cup.
Rodney McCoy (47:41)
and freak energy, freak energy, whatever that freak energy is, whether it’s obvious or, you know, like where it’s just, you you step into a room and your freak flag is like up. The sexy nerdy thing gets me too. In fact, the pommel horse guy embodies with his body, embodies sexy nerd. It’s like, yeah, mm -hmm. He’s got a girlfriend.
But if he ever, and if he does play for the other team, he’s gonna have me
Trevor Hoppe (48:11)
what is, this is a term that people throw around, but I don’t think anyone ever really defines. Like, what does freak mean to you?
Rodney McCoy (48:20)
There’s a key syllable and that is free. And when I think of freak, a person who is free with their desires, yeah, a person who is free with their desires. They can name it, they can claim it, they have no problem expressing it, they have no shame about it. Yeah, I don’t do the walk of shame, I do the stride of pride. And that to me is right, right.
I what am I ashamed for? I got a recommendation. What am I ashamed for? You know, there were two or three nuts between us. What am I ashamed for? We made noise. And that’s what a freak is. He, she, they are so free in terms of who they are sexually. That shame has no place in it. And they’re willing to do and explore and be whoever they are sexually.
That to me is a
Trevor Hoppe (49:16)
Emphasis on the free and freak. think that’s fabulous and helps me because it’s something that I, maybe I’m gonna add that to my profile too. I got a lot of things to add to my profile after this conversation.
Rodney McCoy (49:28)
You’re welcome. You’re welcome.
Trevor Hoppe (49:31)
What kind of skills do you think it takes to have the best sex?
Rodney McCoy (49:34)
Wow Communication That’s I would say that would be the number one, you know, there are I think many things up in here that we like and that we’d like to do But it needs to be able to come here to be able to say this is what I want to do. That’s the number one skill
I would say that’s the number one skill, communication. This is the other thing too. When we say, you you should know, you should know, you know, even for those of us who are sexually active and have been for a while, if we don’t satisfy our partner, the whole either in the moment or in general, then it’s like, well, you should know this, you should know this. And I’m like, dude, this is the first time I’m having sex with you. I don’t know you, not really.
Yeah, and to me, such statements like that are like, don’t project onto the other person the work they’re not doing because you didn’t do the work yourself of really knowing what you like, how you like it, and more importantly, to effectively say, this is what I want. That’s why if guys say, you know, to me doing sex not so hard or harder, whatever that is, to me, that’s perfect because it’s like, okay, now I know what to do. If it’s like,
Not there, but here. Again, I need to know that. Or you missed a spot. Again, I need to know that. know, some guys are extremely hardwired in their nipples. Some are not. You know, some guys, exactly. Some guys love to have their asses eaten. Some can take it or leave it. Again, that’s the one thing where I’ll say that’s because you haven’t had it done right. That’s the only thing.
Trevor Hoppe (51:00)
Amen. Some don’t like it at all.
Ha ha ha
Rodney McCoy (51:15)
Some guys like to have their dick sucked. Some of us do not or some of us are ambivalent You know some of us some of us don’t like teeth. Some of us don’t mind a little sweeping I Found that out not too long. I was like, okay I’d rather have dentures that I can pop out rather than scrape a dick But you know again if you tell me that’s okay that turns me on then I’ll be like, okay, where are my canines? so
Trevor Hoppe (51:21)
Yeah,
Rodney McCoy (51:42)
But so it goes back out. I would say that’s it. Communication. And also knowing what you like. Because…
Trevor Hoppe (51:42)
Communication, yeah.
Yeah, that takes time, right? I mean, that’s so hard. think even, you know, as I’m in my, just, turned 41 recently and it’s still amazing when you learn new things. Old dogs can be taught new tricks, it turns out, but there is a baseline that you need people to be in touch with and, yeah.
Rodney McCoy (52:00)
Yes. Yes.
I would agree, yeah. And being able to communicate that. And to listen. And to listen. Just because five guys before you said they liked that thing, and the sixth guy was like, not so much, you know. And I’m gonna own my stuff. Once upon a time I would be in my physical damn everybody else would do, why don’t you like it? And that goes with the same and hearing no. If they don’t like that, then the next question is, okay, then what would you like me to do? What does
So yes, being able to listen.
Trevor Hoppe (52:38)
What tips would you have for young queer men out there trying to find that best sex but struggling to find
Rodney McCoy (52:44)
The first question I would have is what are you struggling around? If you’re struggling around with being okay with being sexual, what I would, and this is not a read, this is for real. know, counseling is a good thing. A gay sex positive counselor, because there’s a lot of messaging around, particularly men having sex with each other. For some reason, women having sex with each other,
I’m not going to say it’s 100 % acceptable, but women can get a pass. You know, it can be exoticized even, not necessarily for the better, but at least the idea isn’t foreign to a lot of people, but there’s still even a tad more shame and judgment passed still for our sex between each, between, between guys. That’s a lot to unpack to really get to heaven to get. Yeah.
Don’t be ashamed if you need to speak to a counselor about it. That’s number one. Because God knows even in terms of learning how to bottom, there’s some internal mental stuff that I had to get past as well. Eventually I had to talk to people and not just the therapist, but even guys who bottomed it. It’s like, well, how did you navigate this? Or what do you think of this? So one, check the messaging. That’s the big thing. Because once we can get past the shame and the guilt, then it can be
masturbate and play with yourself. You know, a lot of times people treat masturbation like it is the, how do I put it, the appetizer. Or no, no, no, it is the, how do I put this?
It’s what you do in the meantime until you get the real thing. And masturbation is not a placeholder. It is not a filler. It is a viable experience because that is how you learn how you like to have your dck scked That’s how you learn if you like to play with other parts of your body, how you like to be stroked. Again, what other parts of your body you like to be touched. What kind of pressure do you like? Do you like a light touch?
Trevor Hoppe (54:27)
Mmm. Mm -hmm.
Rodney McCoy (54:52)
You need something firm. Toys. Toys for your dick. Toys for your ass. Toys, you know, to play with other parts of your body. You know, different types of lube Masturbation, self -play, solo play. I can’t emphasize that enough. That also helped me bottoming. It still gets me through if I don’t, I live in DC. So I don’t always, I don’t always get the dick that I want when I want it.
Trevor Hoppe (55:02)
Mm -hmm.
Rodney McCoy (55:21)
the toys come in handy and it also helps me prepare. I’ve got toys dildos of different sizes and different thicknesses. So it helps me to play with different textures, different lengths in different positions. So when I finally do get some dick, it’s like, okay, I’m more ready. know, that’s one of the ways I would say to young men, don’t be afraid to play yourself and don’t be afraid to play with yourself because if I’m playing with you, I want to know what you like.
you can have a better way to tell me. And don’t be afraid to have sex with more than one person because that’s how we learn. know, guys, we do different things with guys, they do different things with us. That’s also how we learn. And with that, I would say, don’t forget condoms, PrEP, DoxiePep, getting tested every three to six months. That’s, in my work in HIV prevention, what I tell young men
Trevor Hoppe (55:52)
Mm -hmm.
Rodney McCoy (56:18)
If you want to play the grown -up game, you gotta know the grown -up rules. And those are the rules. Everything I’m saying right now, these are the grown -up rules. This is how you get to being like us.
Trevor Hoppe (56:31)
Playing the big leagues. I like that. Get that Stanley Cup. All these sports analogies.
Rodney McCoy (56:32)
Playing in the big leagues. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I am a guy who loves sports, so I do. Football season is coming, kind of unintended. And like I tell any guy that I’m with, it’s like, be prepared to join football with me or at least be okay to be a football widow, or widower, excuse
Trevor Hoppe (56:54)
I mean, I love the outfits for sure. It’s, yeah.
Rodney McCoy (56:58)
I love both, especially when they’re playing the game in the rain and they’ve got those light colored jerseys and pants and the moisture is showing everything while you are doing that Hail Mary pass to win the game that I bet on. I’m one of those few gay guys who really enjoy the game and not just the players themselves, but I actually enjoy the game itself.
Trevor Hoppe (57:23)
Well, I like to end with the same question every time. A segment I called Sorted Lives and Untold Tales or SLUT for shirt. What’s the sluttiest thing you’ve ever
Rodney McCoy (57:32)
yes, that’s right.
Now I’m almost embarrassed to mention it. So the first time I went to, God, there are two stories. I, I can make two quick stories? Okay, so one of the sluttiest things I did was, well, this was kind of mild in comparison, but the first one was kind of mild where I was in Montreal and I was with a partner at the time
Trevor Hoppe (57:46)
Absolutely.
Rodney McCoy (58:04)
things quite bluntly things were not good things were not good and I was like you know what he’s gone to bed I still want some action I want something I didn’t know what so I went so the hotel we were staying at had a bar downstairs so I just decided okay let me just go on some shoes and an oversized t -shirt it was the 90s and that was all and I went downstairs mixed and mingled
And some guys, know, and I wore it low enough that you couldn’t exactly see, but if you look real closely, you could, and some guys were like, is that the only thing you’re wearing? It’s like, maybe, maybe.
Trevor Hoppe (58:43)
I love that!
Rodney McCoy (58:43)
And again, ironically nothing happened, sexual, but I got a lot of attention and I got a lot of energy. I did. No.
Trevor Hoppe (58:51)
-huh. Were you wearing underwear?
Dang! Bold!
Rodney McCoy (58:56)
No, no, no jockstrap. No, I was bold. again, but it came out of the space of like just wanting some kind of attention. And ironically, and again, nothing sexual happened, but I didn’t realize at the time I just wanted attention. So I wound up doing that and got some attention before I went back upstairs. Yeah. And the other thing was, again, playing out in orgy.
Trevor Hoppe (59:18)
of that.
Rodney McCoy (59:24)
sucking as much dick as I could and finally I was just like you know what and I I did I think this was before I learned what bukkake was I was sucking off these guys in a circle and so I wanted all of them to come on me and so I kept sucking on them until one after the other just shot on me and the host and I got up at one point because I had to shout and one dude just and the host just looked at me and he was like jeez you’re covered in cum
And I was. And it was glorious. Glorious. And trying to think. I don’t know if this counts as slutty, but me and my best friend and his husband, my best friend at the time, Maggie Rest In Peace, and his husband and I went to an orgy together. And there was another dude turned out to be a boxer. And so long story short, I’m trying to remember what it was. I think, no, so me and my best friend,
Trevor Hoppe (59:55)
And you were like, yeah.
Rodney McCoy (1:00:22)
He was fing one guy, I was fing another, and we literally were side by side, sinking our thrusts in time, you know, with each other. So we were going in at the same time, we were coming out and going in at the same time. Sometimes we lost the rhythm and then sometimes we got it back. And I was f***ing a boxer and I didn’t realize he was a boxer until after he…
left and was like why are you following us? And I was like yeah, f*** the hell out of you and you wanted more.
Trevor Hoppe (1:00:58)
Yes!
Rodney McCoy (1:00:59)
Yeah, I was, know, Tinashe ain’t got nothing on me. She’s the one who sings Nasty Girl. Yeah, you know what I’m talking about. I was like, I’m glad you’re singing the song, but girl, you ain’t got nothing on
Trevor Hoppe (1:01:12)
my God. Well, amen to that. Clearly you are right. Those stories were fabulous. Thank you for sharing them because, you know, I just think sometimes talking about it, frankly, it’s just real. Like we have these moments where we feel like we’ve got the Stanley Cup right in our hands and it feels nice. So thank you. And thank you so much for making the time, Rod. I really am grateful.
Rodney McCoy (1:01:33)
Right.
Trevor Hoppe (1:01:39)
for your wisdom and insight and experience. Where can people find you if they wanna learn more about you?
Rodney McCoy (1:01:45)
Okay, so I do have a website and it’s Rodney McCoy, R -O -D -M -C -C -O -Y dot info. If you reach me there, you can leave me a message. It’ll come to my email and I have two emails. can reach, not yet, do it through the website. You can also reach me on Instagram, on IG. I am daddy, D -A -D -D -Y dot Rod.
That’s me on Instagram and on Facebook. I am daddy rod D a D D I E Rod and I’m D a D D I E because Facebook won’t let me be great
Trevor Hoppe (1:02:27)
Dang Facebook and Meta. Well, thank you very much. I am so grateful for the conversation and I look forward to hearing more from you out in the world down the road. Thanks.
Rodney McCoy (1:02:32)
Thank you. Thank you so much.
And you will. And you will. Thank you.
Trevor Hoppe (1:02:46)
That’s our show for today. Thank you so much for listening. Truly, I am very grateful. And remember, if you’re not having your best gay sex, I’m here to help. As a sex coach, I can help you identify and overcome barriers that are standing between you and your best gay sex. Find out more on my website, thebestgaysex.net. Till next time, see you soon.
